If only Energy Vampires wore capes we could steer clear of them with ease.
Unfortunately, they show up in the form of friends, neighbors, loved ones, and people that don't intentionally wish us ill will.
Oftentimes we don't even realize we're being sucked dry until we are energetically dead.
We all experience hard times and traumatic experiences. We grieve, we need support, but then we move on.
Eternal victims are addicted to grief. You only hear from these people when they are miserable.
The victim addicts live in a perpetual state of why me? What did I ever do to deserve this? Nobody loves me. I must have been really evil in my past life. God hates me. I have no spirit guides or angels watching over me. Wah wah wah all day long.
Being in alignment with well being makes them uncomfortable. Self-pity rocks them to sleep at night.
On a good day where everything is going swimmingly, an eternal victim will self-sabotage in order to get back into their default emotion of grief/not good enough/unlovable/misery.
They will think of any reason they can as to why this day is in fact not good in order to justify why they suck or to prove how shitty their life is.
Eternal victims will one up anyone that complains about something. They strive to have the best shittiest life.
These types of energy vampires resent positivity. They get irritated if you try to cheer them up. They do not want you to make them feel better. They do not want empowerment. They don't want your help.
They are the ultimate joy suckers.
All they want is your company. They want to be soothed by your sympathy.
Being around you makes them feel even worse about themselves, which is what feeds them - not being good enough.
They project a perfect unattainable life on to you and get off on wallowing in the fact that they'll never have it as good as you.
With Eternal Victims everything is always about them and their needs. Your needs are irrelevant because your life is perfect in their eyes and your problems will never be as bad as theirs.
You find yourself toning down your happiness around these people or omitting sharing any happy news at all.
They take any of your accomplishments as a personal assault on their own happiness. Making you feel guilty or shameful for how good your life is, is their icing on their pitiful cake.
How dare we feel good when they feel so bad. Their energy is low, being around them brings us down. The more we're around them the lower we start to feel and before you know it the pity-party is now a party of 2.
Misery loves company.
Don't tell them what they want to hear. Agree with them!
For example: Yeah, your life really does suck; Yeah, I can see why nobody loves you; Yeah, you do look kind of stupid today; Yeah, you really did fuck up that (fill in the blank).
This takes away their food source - sympathy.
The next time they have a sob story try replying with "so what?" You will no longer be of use to them. You will ruin their pity party and no longer be invited. YES!
We all get busy, tired, and forgetful sometimes but we recover after a little rest and decompression.
Sleepwalkers live in a perpetual state of unconsciousness. They disassociate to survive. They live life on autopilot and are completely oblivious to the emotions of others.
Unlike Eternal Victims who thrive on negativity, Sleepwalkers spend every waking hour of the day avoiding negativity. They don't want to go there and are constantly on the run from feeling pain.
Sleepwalkers zoom throughout their day from activity to activity never being fully present anywhere. They are so busy in doing things and being distracted that they forget everything, no matter how important.
With Sleepwalkers, it's like Groundhog Day. Every time you see them you have the same conversation. They have no memory of having told you something 1,000 times.
There's no meaning behind anything they say, it's just mindless chatter to fill in silence. They're usually connected to their phones at all times only half listening to anything you say...which is why they don't remember.
These Energy Vampires are so caught up in keeping busy, they have absolutely no clue what's going on with anyone else.
Their mind and body are completely disconnected. They are literally running around with their heads cut off.
Sleepwalkers live in a perpetual state of exhaustion and being with them is exhausting and irritating. They need constant companionship/babysitting.
You could be anyone, it's not who you are that they want to be with. They just don't want to be alone.
They're never fully engaged with you and they waste so much of your time.
They are running running running away from their problems and anyone else's.
Slowing down and just sitting with their own emotions is too painful. Being alone means they have to face their pain. Silence is unbearable.
They cling to you to avoid having to be with themselves.
They don't want to connect, they want to escape. You are merely a resource.
They want you to entertain them. They use up every hour of their day so when they get home they just pass out and don't risk having time for contemplation.
They will run you into the ground.
The Sleepwalkers are looking for easy distractions from their problems. Don't make it easy.
Decline their invitations for the mundane time wasting activities.
Don't engage in surface conversations. Go deep. Ask them how they're doing, like really doing. Probe into their lives. Go in depth about yours.
Real life stuff makes them uncomfortable. They resist any kind of deep connections or conversations. They don't want to get hurt. They make it a point of avoiding feeling any negative emotions. If you keep asking questions that make them uncomfortable they will find a reason to leave or no longer want to engage with you. YES!
We all need help...once in a while.
Takers need help constantly. They always need a favor. They are eternally helpless to help themselves. They will ask for help for the simplest tasks. They always have an excuse as to why they can't do something themselves.
These Energy Vampires are always in a crisis. They make their problems your problems. They're always in a jam - all of their own doing. They get off on thwarting personal responsibility.
Takers are the ones that make you cringe when you see their name show up on your phone or you try to hide from when they show up unannounced.
You instantly know that this interaction is going to cost you something whether it be time, money, or inconvenience. All things you'll never get back or will never be reciprocated.
For many people asking other people for help is extremely uncomfortable and nerve-wrecking. Takers have no such afflictions.
They have no qualms about taking your last dollar. They have no hesitation calling you any hour of the day or night.
Your personal time is of no value to them. It never occurs to them that you have a life outside of helping them at their beckon call.
Takers have no boundaries. Nothing is off limits or too outrageous.
Some Takers tend to have an air of charm about them, which is how they continue to manage to suck people dry. Much like that of a psychopath - their M.O. is to charm, use, and discard.
They are bottomless pits of needs. They will continue to take until there is nothing left. Give them an inch and they will swallow you whole.
These energy vampires expect your help.
They can be quick to get angry if you refuse their need or request for something. Nothing sets off a Taker like the word "no."
These Energy Vampires continuously impede on your life.
They will irritate, guilt, and manipulate the shit out of you until they get their way. You end up helping them just so they'll go away.
Takers don't form emotional connections or attachments. Your relationship with them is a pro bono one sided relationship.
They can't take care of themselves so they will always need someone to take care of them.
They are always casing their next resource - someone who shows compassion, is responsible, and sees the best in people is the perfect trifecta.
Don't be a nurse or a purse!
They feed on being bailed out and taken care of. Cut them the fuck off. Hide out. Don't answer their calls. Lock your doors. Block them from Facebook. You must delete them from your lives.
If after all of this you still have the misfortune of running into them, say NO without explanation. They can't comprehend anything else. They will fast talk you out of any excuse.
Better yet, try asking them for something (like money they probably owe you) and watch how fast they disappear. YES!