I came across a question from a woman seeking some advice about her 10 year old son that made me pretty upset.
She said that her son is very smart and wise for his age. He is extremely interested in famous battles, particularly WWII, and that he reads biographies on Military Generals.
He's been diagnosed with ADD because he can not engage in anything that is of no interest to him.
She is worried that he'll enter his teens without any friends as he has yet to make one at 10. His peers find his interests boring and so he hasn't made any connections.
A reincarnated WWII soldier no less. And probably a future historian or professor!
I blew a gasket over him being diagnosed with ADD. What?! That is so outrageous! I can't name even one peer, myself included, that has the attention span to read a WWII era biography. Why? Because I'm not interested!
I'm interested in a lot of things. I can read 5,000 other books on things that would make "normal" people laugh. I mean have you read the pages I've written on my website?? This stuff is not for the mainstream...yet.
Now this kid has been given the label of a disorder because he can't engage in what they want him to engage in! He can't do what he's told. He can't conform. He can't sit, listen, and repeat like a good little programmed robot.
For what purpose must we all like and do the same things? For the sake of keeping the terrible systems running?
I came across this quote last night and knew I needed to write about this kid, and all the others like him:
"The fact that millions of school children require medication on a daily basis so they can more easily assimilate into the culture of public schooling does not mean these children are damaged. It means something is very wrong with the whole idea of schooling."
Yes. These diagnoses really fuck people up in various ways well into adulthood.
Whether this kid ends up being medicated or not, he still has been deemed unable to function as his puppet masters in the school system would prefer.
This is unacceptable.
It's miserable for the kids. It's miserable for the teachers. Why do we keep doing this? What is it going to take to change our school systems? Why don't we accommodate the students rather than make them conform to a one size fits all system of social conditioning.
School systems don't care about individuality, in fact it is discouraged. It's sole purpose is to get everyone to conform.
This is the exact opposite of the purpose of our very existence - to be our own unique expression of Source Energy. Making people conform is hindering the expansion of our Universe. Indigos are physically incapable of conforming.
If we accommodated these kids instead of medicating them our whole society would change - which is exactly what they came here to do. It's their mission!!
These Indigo Kids didn't come here to sit still.
They didn't come here to fit in the box, they came here to get us out of ours.
They are here to encourage us to make the changes we all want to see but never seem to do anything about.
These new kids coming in can't be controlled and can't take directions. They're unmanageable and unparentable.
Their behavior is "abnormal" to the old paradigm. They all have some "disorder" called living authentically.
They live in their own worlds. They're creating a new reality. They're incapable of doing anything they don't want to do.
If enough of these kids can't learn the way they're being taught, then it's the schools and parenting that must change.
Why can't we allow kids to initiate their own learning?
What would happen if we allowed these "ADD" kids to focus on something they actually enjoy?
Should they be focusing on anything else than what they want to be focused on?
When we force someone to conform in a way that we want them to, we assault the part of their soul that came here to express what it is.
It destroys them. It strips them of their self confidence. It robs them of their dignity. It challenges their self-worth.
When the reality is that it's us that there's something wrong with. Conformity is confining.
I was further perturbed because she posted a picture of this sweet boy and he was absolutely beaming light. (That's not him ^)
He seemed absolutely happy and the thought of him having to modify who he is to fit in and make friends with "normal" kids (programmed robots) and be a "good" student makes me sad.
He would be just as miserable playing sports as one of his peers would be trying to read one of his books. He doesn't have any friends right now and that's OK. Look at him for Christ's sake. He's fine. We don't all have to be the same.
Additionally, these kids are super sensitive. Being Empathic makes it hard to be around others. And who wants to be around others who think you're boring anyway.
Introverts especially don't want to spend time around anyone that doesn't want to spend time with them. Introverts are perfectly capable of entertaining themselves. They can figure things out and manage on their own.
Indigos tend to go through life alone. It would be awesome to at least have support from our family. Help us emanate that light inside of us. How many adults do you see walking around beaming that inner light? Not too many. Don't contribute to the dimming of our light.
My advice to you Mom is to quit your worrying. He'll pick up on it and think there is something wrong with him. He will try to conform to appease you. He will sacrifice who he is to make you happy.
Be proud you have a unique child.
Just let him be. He will find people with common ground along his way. Look for alternative schooling that would probably be a better fit for him.
I would also recommend doing your own soul searching, mom. I know that parents feel pressure to have normal kids and have something to brag about.
I have a suspicion that part of your concern for your son having no friends is that it leaves you out of the other mom's social club. I can see how it could be distressing not having parties to attend or soccer games to sit at with the other parents. You feeling left out is your own issue to process, not for your son to fix.
Make peace with "abnormal." You're a pioneer because abnormal is the new normal.