Empaths Have Poor Boundaries

The reason most Empaths suffer as they do is because they have no boundaries, poor boundaries, or they fail to enforce the boundaries that they have.

Personal boundaries are guidelines a person creates to identify for themselves what is acceptable for other people to behave around them.

No doubt your friends, family, and society have different ideas about what your boundaries should and shouldn't be. 

Only you can know what your boundaries are.  Your boundaries are about your sense of self.

Your emotions will tell you what your boundaries are and whether they have been violated.

You fail to enforce your boundaries when:

  • You do something you don't want to do in order to be accepted or to please others;
  • You go out of your way to be seen as good or useful;
  • You drop everything to accommodate someone else's needs;
  • You put other people first;
  • You don't trust yourself;
  • You feel bad when you say no;
  • You fear breaking your word;
  • You fear other people thinking badly of you;
  • You fear telling people how you feel;
  • You fear confrontation;
  • You don't speak up;
  • You don't define your own needs.

There's a light and dark aspect to helping others.

Empaths are sensitive souls. We are lightworkers that genuinely want to help others to feel good.

Unfortunately, sometimes helping others comes at the expense of our own health and happiness. 

When it comes to helping others we must consider why it is we want to help.

We help others because it feels good.

We help others because we don't want to feel rejected.

When it's the shadow side of helping that is emerging, it's time to enforce the boundaries. 

It's time for a paradigm shift: caring about how you feel is self loving, not selfish.

Many of us have been conditioned to believe that saying no or not helping out when we are able, is being selfish.

Selfishness has quite a negative connotation. 

When we do things we don't want to do, we are energetically assaulting ourselves and for what? To be liked?

Love yourself enough not to be liked. 

Make your health and your happiness your priority. Preserving your health and happiness is all the reason in the world to say no to something.

Anyone who ridicules or shames you for taking care of yourself is not someone worth helping.

Remember that NO is a complete sentence!

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